The reality blonde is still smarting over the criticism she received on last week's "Dancing With the Stars," when judge Carrie Ann Inaba gently suggested she try to class things up.
"Elegance is not so different from sexy," said Inaba. "It's like you're afraid of elegance."
Responded Kendra, whose Mafia-tinged interpretation of the Viennese waltz with partner Louis van Amstel earned them the lowest score of the night, "I just don't care about it."
(She later blamed her retort on "hormones.")
And despite Inaba's encouraging follow-up words ("You are a really beautiful dancer. You just need to have more confidence."), Wilkinson tells reporters that the critique made her feel "like giving up."
"Another woman telling me about elegance eats away at my ego," admits Kendra (via People.com). "I'm a huge Carrie Ann fan, and she's [usually] so sweet, but that one comment -- I felt belittled at that moment and embarrassed."
Elegance, explains Hef's former squeeze and sex tape star, "is what [my husband] Hank [Baskett] sees, not what Carrie Ann sees. That's what I care about."
Besides, says Kendra, "Why am I listening to people that I don't care about? I'm out here to have a good time -- to be Kendra and dance and shake my butt -- not to be a professional dancer."
According to the starlet, "Dancing" has been "great, and a time of my life I will look back on, but it's not my life. My life is my family memories. We just bought a new home. That right there means the world to me."